We love Facebook, but we also know there needs to be some rules when it comes to Facebook and our marriage. Facebook, or any social media, can be a great tool or great problem in a lot of marriages. So, as married couples, it’s important that we have some rules, guidelines and accountability for things like Facebook? Here are a few “Guidelines for Married Couples” that we follow and would like to share…
1. Don’t spend more time on Facebook than you should. If you’re staying up at night on Facebook while your spouse goes to bed … probably not a good idea.
2. NEVER hide things from your spouse on Facebook. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it a 1000 more times, openness and honestly is the glue of your marriage. When you start hiding friendships, conversations, chat sessions and comments from your spouse, THAT IS UNHEALTHY. If you’re not allowing your spouse to know what you’re doing on Facebook or online, that’s a sign that you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing. Cheating on your spouse online is JUST AS WRONG as physically cheating on your spouse. If you’re doing it … STOP IT!
3. Share your Facebook password with your spouse. I share every password with Lea … from my Facebook account to every email address I have. Why would I want to do that? It’s called trust, and it’s also called accountability. Knowing my wife can open my laptop at anytime and read anything I’m doing, or see any place I’ve gone, keeps me accountable. It’s very healthy. Don’t hide things from your spouse.
4. NEVER EVER EVER befriend anyone of the opposite sex that your spouse is uncomfortable with. SERIOUSLY, befriending an old boyfriend or girlfriend should NEVER be done without fully discussing it with your spouse. AND, if they are even in the slightest way uncomfortable with you befriending anyone of the opposite sex … don’t do it. Don’t search for old boyfriends and girlfriends. Simple communication with your spouse about this is best.
5. Unfriend anyone who crosses normal boundaries. If someone is saying things, doing things or asking questions online that make you uncomfortable OR would make you uncomfortable in person, then that’s not a good sign. Listen to the little voice in your head. If something tells you “this isn’t right,” then it’s probably not.
6. If you’re married, PROUDLY set your “Relationship Status” to married. Seriously … proudly shout to the world … I AM MARRIED! I wish there was a “Happily Married” status or for that matter, or an “I’m madly in love with my incredibly gorgeous wife.” I’d change my status to that in a heartbeat.
7. Post pictures of you and your spouse on your Facebook, OR use a “couple” picture as your profile picture.
8. Don’t be afraid to proclaim your love for your spouse on Facebook. Someone of the opposite sex won’t question your love for your spouse if you occasionally brag on your spouse on your Facebook status. It’s one of the healthiest things you can do … to brag on your spouse, and doing it in public conveys your love for your spouse to the world. It doesn’t bother me one drop to tell the world just how much I love my wife.
9. NEVER use my status to complain about my spouse. Not smart! Facebook is not for you to air your grievances to the world about your spouse.
10. Think before you type. Don’t make comments on statuses and pictures of other people that come across as suggestive. Men, THINK how it’s going to look before you click “like” on some girl’s picture that was taken at a swimming pool. Wives, think before you praise another man on Facebook more than you would your husband.
11. No matter how many friends you have on Facebook, remember that your #1 friend should be your spouse. Strive to better that relationship on a daily basis. Work 1000 times harder to grow in your relationship than you do at finding friends on Facebook. NEVER take your relationship with your spouse for granted. THE LAST THING YOU WANT is 1000 Facebook friends, while the love between you and your best friend slowly dies out.